Showing posts with label biracial identity. Show all posts
Showing posts with label biracial identity. Show all posts

Tuesday, May 29, 2012

“Why Are All the Black Kids Sitting Together in the Cafeteria?” A recommended book by Dr. Tatum


I just finished reading the book “Why Are All the Black Kids Sitting Together in the Cafeteria?” by Beverly Tatum, PH.D., and had to share it with you.
In this book, Dr. Tatum explains racial identity development and unpacks how all people develop their racial identity in American society, especially in adolescence and in college.

Reading her book reminded me of my own racial identity development, for which college was the catalyst.

I am bi-racial: half White, half Puerto Rican. I like rice and beans and Taylor Swift. In high school, I never quite felt like I fully fit in with either racial group. When you’re half non-White, people usually consider you primarily the non-White race (in my case, Hispanic). But since I didn’t speak Spanish, I didn’t feel like I fully fit in (though of course that didn’t stop someone in the cafeteria once calling me a derogatory name for Hispanics).

But when I got to community college, two classes completely changed my perspective: Latin American Humanities and an Honors Seminar on Identity. 

In Latin American Humanities, I was immersed in the art, culture, and history of my Latino roots, and I identified strongly. I don’t remember the artist’s name, but I’ll never forget the painting that depicted a Puerto Rican family celebration. I recognized the scene, I saw myself in it, and I identified.

In the Honors Seminar on Identity, we were asked to get into identity groups and give two presentations: one on the stereotypes of our group, and the other on the barriers. It was a small class of only 12 people, but the groups started to form. The Black students made up a group, the LGBT students made up a group, the White students made up a group, the Hispanic students made up a group. I didn’t know where I belonged.

And then, all of a sudden, there was another multiracial student in the class who spoke up. And we formed a group together, unpacking what it meant to be multiracial in a society that still, as much as we’d like to think it doesn’t, places a lot of emphasis on racial identity.

And in the end, according to Dr. Tatum, we all need to unpack our own racial identity in a positive way. We need to discover it, own it, embrace it, and then move forward.

Dr. Tatum really emphasizes the power of positive role models in this development process. Who are we seeing on TV that “looks like us”? What is the message being portrayed? How do our parents communicate our racial identity to us? Who are our role models who share a similar racial identity?

I’ve also been reading a lot of books on the Millennial generation lately (people born 1982-2003), and generally speaking, we are a more accepting generation. We’ve grown up in a diverse world where Martin Luther King Jr. is an inspirational speech we watch in middle school and segregation is something we find shocking and - because of its horror – think happened much further in history than it actually did. We don’t place as much emphasis on race as previous generations. However, racial discrimination still very much exists.

And our generation is perfectly positioned to do something about it. However, we cannot do anything until we understand our own identity, the identity development of others, and the realities of the discrimination that exists in the world we live in today. 

“Why Are All the Black Kids Sitting Together in the Cafeteria?” reminded me of my own constant identity development as a biracial woman, and, more importantly, helped me gain a deeper understanding of and a behind-the-scenes look into the identity development of other people.  

As a part of the millennial generation, we can fall into the trap of thinking racial discrimination doesn’t exist anymore, or that since we “don’t see color” we don’t need to think about it.

But understanding who we are, where we come from, and what others experience is one of the best parts of college. It doesn’t happen automatically, though. We must seek those diversity experiences for ourselves. Dr. Tatum’s book is a great place to start.

Monday, June 13, 2011

Have You Decided?

I’ve always admired people who can speak a variety of languages. And I’ve always been completely inspired by those who are able to come to a new country and not only learn the language but also excel in reaching their goals and creating a better life for themselves and their families.

I have long been enamored with such talent and accomplishment, but it wasn’t until recently that I came to understand that admiration could be bestowed on my very own grandparents.

They came from Puerto Rico to New York after they married – not knowing any English – and worked as hotel janitors for their entire lives.

As I explain in The Biracial & Bi-collegiate Identity I am half Puerto Rican. And of course whenever anyone finds this out they ask “do you know Spanish?”

And I always reluctantly say no and that I wish I did and that I’m planning to learn one of these days.

This isn’t something I just say. I have wanted to make the commitment to learn for a long time. Three years ago I even bought one of those high-tech learn-the-lanugage-in-6-months full immersion computer programs.

And it has sat in the back of my closet with my old Sims games ever since.

But something changed last week. It wasn’t some big epiphany or moment that finally made me realize all of my excuses (e.g. it will take to long to learn a new language, what will I really do with the skill once I have it, I won’t really be able to learn unless I live somewhere where they only speak Spanish anyways…) were unfounded.

What changed is that I finally made a decision. I am going to learn Spanish.

For years I have told people I “wanted” to. I even bought the learning software, which may seem like a decision, but it wasn’t. It was all just a show until I really decided.

So last week I dug through my closet and old computer stuff and found the brand-new-never-opened Spanish language learning software and put in the first CD and started (“la leche…el servico de seƱoras”).

How often in life do we move forward with things and realize - though we’re going through the motions - we still haven’t fully committed? How often do we act like we’ve decided when really we’re just trying to put off the decision because we’re afraid?

I find many students in college who are simply going through the motions -- taking classes, picking a major -- but they are far from committed. They are going to college, but they haven’t decided to get an education.They haven’t decided to succeed. They haven’t decided to do their best. They haven’t decided why they are there at all.

What about you? Have you decided that you are going to make the most of your college education – whatever it takes?

All it takes is a decision. And it doesn’t come by magic or even an inspirational epiphany. It just comes from you. It can only come from you.

So whatever you’ve been putting off, wherever you’ve been aimlessly wandering, decide to make a decision about what you are trying to achieve. Decide that it is going to happen. Decide what you are going to give. And then once you’ve decided – do.